Divorce is never easy, but sometimes it can be a terrible nightmare. An ex-partner can strive to make your life miserable through unfair legal actions or debating the value and ownership of everything once in your possession. There are ways to cope with divorce both physically, emotionally, and legally. You should know what to do, how to act, and how to best move on. These are the best coping mechanisms you can hope to find.
- First and foremost, get a therapist. Do this before you file for divorce, because therapy could help you figure out some things about both yourself and your partner. Discovery might reassure you that divorce is the best option or it might change your mind. Once you file for divorce, it’s hard to turn around and go back–that’s not how human beings are wired. Therapy will also help you check your emotions at the door during important legal situations in which both partners are present, and provide an outlet for them when need be.
- Therapy is the first order of business, but make proper legal counsel your second. Your partner will have counsel as well, and you don’t want to be left behind when it comes to taking a critical next step that requires technical information you don’t have. A lawyer (and maybe a financial advisor too) will help you set appropriate goals for your current situation.
- Make sure your friends and family know what you’re going through. You don’t want to be alone with yourself right now. Make sure to keep those closest to you as near as you can. Get out. Go do things. It’s not about keeping your mind occupied, it’s about filling your brain with chemicals that induce happiness! Stay away from alcohol and other drugs. Limit your caffeine intake in the morning. These only serve to induce depression.
- Exercise. Do it as much as you can, but recognize that there is such a thing as too much exercise if you’re already overloaded. You’ll know what amount of exercise is right for you. When you leave the house, try to find an unpopulated, natural preserve to explore. Run, walk, whatever. But remember that environments can change how our brain reacts to different stimuli. Fresh air is important.
- Listen to music. Not the music associated with how you feel now, but music that feels energetic and upbeat and happy. You don’t want to sink lower because you’re listening to the wrong thing. What you’re listening to can affect your overall outlook. Be careful!