What Happens If The First Lady Wants To Divorce The President?

For this country, it’s an unthinkable possibility: What happens if the president’s life partner wants a divorce? We’ve only seen it on shows like 24 — which have a somewhat colorful take on potential real-world scenarios. The president of the United States is widely considered the most powerful person in the world. That means that his influence over the other people in his life often straddles the line between right and wrong, or legal and illegal.

Take the 90s affair between President Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky, for example. Is it even possible that the pair could have a consensual relationship considering Clinton’s power and influence? Could Lewinsky possibly have been comfortable saying “no” to the man? Those are the questions still being asked today amidst the #metoo movement.

But today there are also different questions being asked regarding the president in office right now. Many have debated whether or not First Lady Melania Trump is truly happy in her marriage. Somewhat more bombastic reports actually assert that she’s one of the first people in line ready to “dump Trump.” In her case, the phrase might be taken more literally.

Former White House aide Omarosa is known for her common criticisms of the president. She even appeared on the first season of Celebrity Big Brother, which aired on CBS. During her stint on the show, she blatantly stated that the country was not going to be okay under Trump. Considering many of his actions in office, it’s difficult to argue against those words.

But now Omarosa is saying that Melania’s wardrobe is actually meant to rebel against the president. “Taken as a whole,” Omarosa writes, “all of her style rebellions have served the same purpose. I believe Melania uses style to punish her husband.”

Maybe she’s onto something.

Melania wore an “I Really Don’t Care. Do U?” jacket when she visited a Texas border facility last year. 

Omarosa said, “She wore that jacket to hurt Trump, setting off a controversy that he would have to fix, prolonging the conversation about the administration’s insensitivity, ruining the trip itself, and trying to make sure that no one asked her to do something like that again.”

But if true, it begs the more important question: Could Melania leave her husband, even if she wanted a divorce? Could she really speak out against such an overbearing and powerful public figure? When does her lack of comfort in her marriage cross the thin line from legal to illegal? Likely, we won’t know the truth until many years after Trump leaves office.

Then again, Omarosa believes that Melania is waiting until the end of the term to file for divorce.
If you feel stuck in a marriage but don’t know how to extricate yourself from the situation, there are resources available to you. Call a divorce attorney at your earliest convenience for a free consultation.

Should Legislators Try To Reduce High Divorce Rates With New Laws?

The “sanctity” of marriage has taken quite a blow in recent years as marriage rates fall and divorce rates increase. That’s why one Jacksonville representative, Clay Yarborough (R-Florida) wants to pass a new measure called the “Guide to a Healthy Marriage.” According to his description, the new action is meant to reduce high divorce rates while saving the taxpayers a few bucks per year.

But is that really the case?

The “Guide to a Healthy Marriage” is exactly that: reading material that gives advice and insight that might help a marriage thrive if spouses were to stick to it. The guide teaches potential spouses about expectations, communication, conflict management, parenting, and how to deal with domestic disputes. Yarborough wants anyone and everyone who applies for a marriage license in his state to read that guide. 

The guide was written after Governor Ron DeSantis put together an education committee on marriage (notably costing the taxpayers a few bucks per year). Or not — according to Yarbourough, the measure would be paid for with “private funds.” Whatever that means.

Yarbourough said, “Promoting healthy marriages and families in Florida should be a priority for all of us. When the bill was filed previously, groups came forward who supported the idea of additional information to go alongside the Florida Family Law Handbook.

“Since 1998 and continuing today under current law, acknowledgment by couples that access was provided to the handbook is a prerequisite to receiving a marriage license in Florida. The Florida Guide to a Healthy Marriage would be made available as additional information, not to be mandated.”

An American Community Survey conducted from 2013 to 2017 found that an average of 11.67 people out of a 1,000 and over the age of 15 were divorced each year in the country. But Florida has one of the highest divorce rates in the United States. South Pasadena has the highest, for example, at 22.3 percent. 

This measure has been up for debate before, and has yet to find a willing sponsor in the Florida Senate.

Yarborough continued, “A number of bills do not make it through the process the year they are first filed. This is an important priority and I will be pushing hard to get it through the process…The majority of [the handbook] centers around child-related issues after divorce, how courts divide assets and liabilities, and the steps to take to end a marriage. In an effort to provide a balance, the FL Guide to a Healthy Marriage will focus on elements not expanded upon in the handbook.”

Sarah Palin’s Husband To Seek Divorce Over Incompatible Temperaments

Sarah Palin always manages to find a way to wiggle back into the nightly news cycle, but this time it’s not her own doing: her husband Todd Palin has filed for divorce, according to reports from the Anchorage Superior Court where the paperwork was submitted. The information indicates that Todd filed for divorce on August 29, only about a week after the two celebrated (or didn’t) their anniversary.

The reasoning is far from specific, but even without details few would be surprised. Todd says that the two “find it impossible to live together as husband and wife.” 

The divorce papers don’t use their full names, but they document obvious details about the Palin family, including the birthday of their son, Trig, who suffers from Down Syndrome. Todd requested shared custody. The documents request an equitable share of all assets and debts acquired during marriage. 

Sarah Palin shot to fame when Senator John McCain chose her to be his running mate in the 2008 election he ultimately lost to the now former president, Barack Obama, and his vice president, Joe Biden.

Todd stands in stark contrast to Sarah as having avoided the lion’s share of the limelight, except in the weeks after a serious snowmobile accident in 2016 when he broke several ribs, a shoulder blade, and clavicle. He also suffered from lacerations on his leg and a collapsed lung. 

Reported emails do little to document the couple’s relationship, but they do shed light on Todd’s involvement with Sarah’s political career. According to the emails, they discussed economic issues like marine regulation and wildfires in addition to economic and political issues like oil and gas production, budgets, education, vetoes, staffing, etc.

The couple’s family life might be rockier than imagined: in late 2017, their son Track Palin was charged with breaking and entering the family home, and then assault and battery after a scuffle with Todd. He took a plea deal in order to see the charges reduced.

Their daughter Bristol has also been in the news for her participation in a reality TV program called Teen Mom after she became pregnant with her son, Tripp, at age seventeen.

The couple has yet to comment on the potential divorce proceedings.

Are you in the middle of an ongoing divorce? An amicable solution is best for all parties involved, but sometimes spouses fail to come to an agreement and a case inevitably moves to court. If you need legal help in a divorce, sit down with a qualified divorce attorney for a free consultation today!

There Is Only One Place In The World Where Divorce Is Legal

We’ve come a long way as a civilization — not just the United States, but the entire world. Many terrible atrocities committed in the past are long gone, slavery chief among them (if you don’t count the 40 million or so people who are legally enslaved through loopholes or underground criminal activity). Here at home, voting rights now extend to anyone who reaches age eighteen. Civil rights, over time, only become stronger. And then there are divorce rights. 

Once upon a time divorce was considered a life-long vow no matter what. That meant obtaining a divorce was illegal! Did you know that there is one country where divorcing a spouse is still illegal? You might not believe which country it is, either: the Philippines. Divorce is also impossible in the Vatican City and the British Crown Dependency of Sark (which you’ve probably never even heard of).

Part of the fear is that the Philippines, a popular travel location, will turn into a place where people come to “get married in the morning [and] … get divorced in the afternoon.”

While that has little chance of happening even if divorce legislation changes current laws, there is always an excuse for conservative members of government to make. That’s why so many countries hadn’t legalized divorce before the last few decades.

Malta legalized in 2011; Chile in 2004; Ireland in 1996; Andorra in 1995; Colombia and Paraguay in 1991; Argentina in 1987; and the list continues. Divorce has always been common in the United States.

Most legally obtained divorces require a court authority to sanction the act — which in most cases will only occur after the two spouses meet a strict set of requirements. They might have to decide how joint resources are split up, and they might have to turn to lawyers or mediators — or even a judge — to determine who gets custody of children or pays alimony and/or child support. There are lots of variables to discuss. 

The way many younger people approach marriage, and relationships in general, today, is much different than it used to be. Today you often hear terms like “open” to describe a relationship. “Polyamory” is another word that gets thrown around a lot. In most cases this means — even in the case of marriage — partners are allowed to have extramarital partners or relationships, and in some cases both spouses are involved in a relationship with a third party. One can only imagine how marriage and divorce will continue to change in the next few decades.

Are you from the Philippines? If you moved to the United States and would like a divorce, it might be time to talk to a divorce lawyer now!

What Should You Ask Your Lover Before Tying The Knot: How To Prevent Divorce

Preventing divorce might be as simple as asking the right questions prior to marriage — and how many of us really do that? We think we’re in love, and we’re usually in that young phase of life during which we think we already have all the answers. More questions would just complicate the chemistry inherent in the relationship! Well, not quite. Most psychologists recommend a courting or cohabitation period of five to ten years before a proposal. There’s a reason for that.

  1. Part of the reason is how much you know about your partner, and when. There are always going to be those people who court one another for two months, determine they’re the only people in the world for one another, and then jump into a long-term commitment far too soon — very few of these relationships work out for the best. Most result in messy divorces. That’s why you need to question your partner about financial goals. Ask what their dream is or where they see themselves in a decade, and then find out how they plan to achieve that dream.

  2. Go down a list of deal breakers and don’t be afraid to put it on the fridge. This can and will change as partners become more comfortable opening up to one another, and those deal breakers can easily make a partner question whether marriage is really an intelligent next step. Take your time before you accept that the list is complete.

  3. Do you want kids? It seems like a blatantly obvious question, but some people still fail to ask — they make a bad assumption instead. Loving children doesn’t mean a person will want them. While you’re at it, ask what will happen if they can’t have children biologically. Is adoption on the table?

  4. What does time to yourself mean to you? Some people need a solid daily portion set aside for freedom and independence, while others will need to spend every waking moment with their loved one. Although opposites can and will attract, this is not one of those traits that should be all that dissimilar from your own.

  5. How do you communicate during arguments? There are those who need a few hours of alone-time to calm down — and won’t accept anything else — and then there are those who feel the need to immediately mend fences — and won’t accept anything else. Sadly these two types of people rarely interact well during marriage, and this is a big one to avoid. Find out whether your partner would prefer writing issues down or discussing them openly.

Are Millennials Really Ditching Divorce?

It is a difficult story to avoid in today’s news cycles: millennials are destroying everything in the world from peanut butter jelly time to doorbells to healthy relationships. How does one find fact in a sea of fiction? The easiest thing to do is assume most everything is fiction, because most everything is. But you may have read a recent collection of studies that suggest millennials are actually having a positive impact on divorce statistics.

Are millennials really not ripping apart the institution of marriage as often as their parents did? The answer is complicated (but also “yes”).

According to these studies, the reduced probability of divorce among the millennial generation has resulted in a whopping 24 percent overall decline in divorce rates going back to 1981. One of the highest criticisms older generations have lodged against the younger surrounds the hookup culture, but these numbers seem to suggest that millennials, while quicker to jump into bed, are slower (or less likely) to get hitched.

For other generations, marriage was the start of a new relationship on which partners would begin to build a life. These days things have changed. Now marriage is the result of a mature relationship. Many of these bonds were already secured with affection, sexual intercourse, cohabitation, and even kids, which is part of the reason why younger couples are marrying at an older age than their parents did. They only take this final step when they feel absolutely safe that the bond is lasting.

Another piece of the puzzle lies in how many fewer millennials are getting married at all. According to a publication from the University of Baltimore, a quarter of this bracket of the population won’t bother. Nearly a quarter of the same age bracket does not affiliate with any religion. Although most millennials appear to believe in god, it seems that fewer hold religion in as high esteem as their parents. Maybe this is why so many millennials are abandoning marriage, an institution so steeped in religious importance.

Millennials also realize we live in a changing world with perhaps a less secure economic future. Divorce can be a costly affair both emotionally and financially and most millennials will do anything to avoid making a dent in their pocketbook. Who can fault them for being diligent with their money? Financial situations are a big cause of divorce, which is why it might be smart to wait until partners feel secure in their livelihood as well.

This is probably the biggest driver of prenuptial agreements, which millennials are coincidentally signing more often than their parents.

There’s another interesting possibility why millennials might marry (and divorce) less often. Rates of marriage among couples whose religious beliefs and cultural backgrounds differ are on the rise, as are the number of wedding ceremonies a single couple will hold. This is done to accommodate everyone’s beliefs.

In the end, millennials are divorcing less often because they believe in personal security above all else.

How Is Child Support Calculated?

Unfortunately, the Federal Government does not have one standardized way to calculate child support, so it is left up to each individual state, and each individual state has it’s own formula. Most states, including California and New York, use something that is called an income share model while other states like Texas used what is called a percentage income model. Other states use a combination of these two models, while others use a completely different method.

Income Share Model 

The child support payment is based on the income of both parents and the total number of children. The court uses an economic table that shows the expected cost of raising a child to determine a monetary amount. The non-custodial parent is responsible to pay 55.6% of that amount to the custodial parent. Here’s an example:

Parent 1 makes $2500 a month and is the custodial parent. Parent 2 makes $2000 a month and is the non-custodial parent. The net income of the family is $4500 a month. According to the economic table, the expected cost of raising a child per month is $1,125. Parent 2 has to pay 55.6% of the $1,125 to Parent 1 which is roughly $625.50 a month.

Percentage Income Model 

The child support payment is based on a specific percentage of the non-custodial parent’s gross or net income. The percentage of income can either be flat (where it doesn’t change based on the non-custodial parent’s income) or varied (where it does change based on the non-custodial parent’s income) depending on the state. Here’s an example:

Parent 2 is the non-custodial parent and makes $2000 a month. Parent 2 has to give 25% of this monthly income to Parent 1 for child support. Parent 2 pays Parent 1 $500 a month regardless of how much income Parent 1 makes.

To know exactly how much you will need to pay in child support, it is important to know which model your state uses. Once you know that, you should be able to estimate approximately how much you will have to pay each month.


How Is Divorce Different In The Middle East?

Divorce in the Middle East isn’t a topic we often discuss, even though it has a number of fundamental differences from marriage in the rest of the world. Many marriages in the Middle East are still arranged not for love, but for status and wealth. Then again, times are quickly changing, and divorce rates are on the rise even as they start to level out in many Western countries.

Women have never had it easy, and their struggles are perhaps even more arduous in the Middle Eastern countries where they have fewer rights or legal avenues to fight the injustices done to them.

Women in particular often can’t settle a divorce without their husband’s consent. That leads to obvious problems if a husband isn’t willing to cooperate in a loveless marriage or one in which domestic violence is present. Men, on the other hand, are often freely allowed to divorce their wives without cooperation or consent if the differences are said to be irreconcilable. Because men can use this leverage at any time, women are prone to greater anxiety than their husbands.

Women in the Middle East are more likely to struggle with poverty after a divorce and inherit less. This is better than it was in the far-past when women were lucky to inherit anything at all. Even though these laws favor men to an unfortunate extreme, the men in the Middle East still bear much of the financial burden of maintaining their homes.

These differences tend to make the social status differences between men and women much more pronounced. One of the reasons that the status quo has not changed more quickly is because Islamic law is generally based on the Qur’an, where these ideas are founded. Although many laws were borrowed from Europe over the past few centuries, divorce laws have stayed mostly the same.

Women have made civil rights gains in Turkey, Tunisia, and Somalia most notably because the governments of these countries and states are less dependent on the dominant religions throughout the rest of the Middle East. Other countries have done their best to follow suit, giving women the right to face their husbands in court to plead a case. Saudi Arabia is one of the countries in which divorce laws seem completely unchanged.

Why You Should Be Okay With Divorce

Marriages have been made throughout history for a number of reasons, the most romantic among them being love. Arranged marriages are made in order to strengthen the ties–both financial and otherwise–between two families in order to ensure a better future is made for each. We often hear that those are the most successful, but you know what? Who decided that, and what metric were they using to define success?

Arranged marriages also don’t apply to most people who live in developed nations. Why continue to discuss them as if they’ll show us the way to happiness?

Most of us fall into the first category. We marry a significant other not for financial gain or wellbeing, but because we are in love. We want to build something of a different nature: a family. But it doesn’t always work out the way we want, the way we dream, or the way we hope. That’s because everyone is different, and everyone changes over time.

That’s why you should be okay with divorce. The healthiest course is to both accept and adapt to change. To move on. To look forward to the future.

It’s no secret that marriages rarely work. There is no “ideal” marriage. Half of all marriages end in divorce, and even among those that “work” the rate of cheating on a partner remains sickeningly high. So here’s the question: why are we so obsessed with making it work if we can just go our separate ways and find happiness somewhere else?

Well, part of it is history. Americans in general have a puritan background, and the beliefs and values that were passed down to us for hundreds of years still endure, even if the practices on which those values were placed have changed.

People grow apart. They discover they have different dreams. They want different things. They view the world in a way far different than they once did. They grow tired of the same stale conversations at the end of the day, and they wish it were different.

What’s the harm in any of that?

There’s no logic to staying together with someone if the relationship has turned into a toxic mess. It’s bad for you both, and it’s bad for any children involved. You can’t hide marital problems. Give therapy a try if you both agree that bridging your differences is the best course of action, but if it doesn’t work, don’t fight the future. Get a divorce, and move on.

How To Cope With Your Nightmare Divorce

Divorce is never easy, but sometimes it can be a terrible nightmare. An ex-partner can strive to make your life miserable through unfair legal actions or debating the value and ownership of everything once in your possession. There are ways to cope with divorce both physically, emotionally, and legally. You should know what to do, how to act, and how to best move on. These are the best coping mechanisms you can hope to find.

  1. First and foremost, get a therapist. Do this before you file for divorce, because therapy could help you figure out some things about both yourself and your partner. Discovery might reassure you that divorce is the best option or it might change your mind. Once you file for divorce, it’s hard to turn around and go back–that’s not how human beings are wired. Therapy will also help you check your emotions at the door during important legal situations in which both partners are present, and provide an outlet for them when need be.
  2. Therapy is the first order of business, but make proper legal counsel your second. Your partner will have counsel as well, and you don’t want to be left behind when it comes to taking a critical next step that requires technical information you don’t have. A lawyer (and maybe a financial advisor too) will help you set appropriate goals for your current situation.
  3. Make sure your friends and family know what you’re going through. You don’t want to be alone with yourself right now. Make sure to keep those closest to you as near as you can. Get out. Go do things. It’s not about keeping your mind occupied, it’s about filling your brain with chemicals that induce happiness! Stay away from alcohol and other drugs. Limit your caffeine intake in the morning. These only serve to induce depression.
  4. Exercise. Do it as much as you can, but recognize that there is such a thing as too much exercise if you’re already overloaded. You’ll know what amount of exercise is right for you. When you leave the house, try to find an unpopulated, natural preserve to explore. Run, walk, whatever. But remember that environments can change how our brain reacts to different stimuli. Fresh air is important.
  5. Listen to music. Not the music associated with how you feel now, but music that feels energetic and upbeat and happy. You don’t want to sink lower because you’re listening to the wrong thing. What you’re listening to can affect your overall outlook. Be careful!