Sarah Palin’s Husband To Seek Divorce Over Incompatible Temperaments

Sarah Palin always manages to find a way to wiggle back into the nightly news cycle, but this time it’s not her own doing: her husband Todd Palin has filed for divorce, according to reports from the Anchorage Superior Court where the paperwork was submitted. The information indicates that Todd filed for divorce on August 29, only about a week after the two celebrated (or didn’t) their anniversary.

The reasoning is far from specific, but even without details few would be surprised. Todd says that the two “find it impossible to live together as husband and wife.” 

The divorce papers don’t use their full names, but they document obvious details about the Palin family, including the birthday of their son, Trig, who suffers from Down Syndrome. Todd requested shared custody. The documents request an equitable share of all assets and debts acquired during marriage. 

Sarah Palin shot to fame when Senator John McCain chose her to be his running mate in the 2008 election he ultimately lost to the now former president, Barack Obama, and his vice president, Joe Biden.

Todd stands in stark contrast to Sarah as having avoided the lion’s share of the limelight, except in the weeks after a serious snowmobile accident in 2016 when he broke several ribs, a shoulder blade, and clavicle. He also suffered from lacerations on his leg and a collapsed lung. 

Reported emails do little to document the couple’s relationship, but they do shed light on Todd’s involvement with Sarah’s political career. According to the emails, they discussed economic issues like marine regulation and wildfires in addition to economic and political issues like oil and gas production, budgets, education, vetoes, staffing, etc.

The couple’s family life might be rockier than imagined: in late 2017, their son Track Palin was charged with breaking and entering the family home, and then assault and battery after a scuffle with Todd. He took a plea deal in order to see the charges reduced.

Their daughter Bristol has also been in the news for her participation in a reality TV program called Teen Mom after she became pregnant with her son, Tripp, at age seventeen.

The couple has yet to comment on the potential divorce proceedings.

Are you in the middle of an ongoing divorce? An amicable solution is best for all parties involved, but sometimes spouses fail to come to an agreement and a case inevitably moves to court. If you need legal help in a divorce, sit down with a qualified divorce attorney for a free consultation today!

There Is Only One Place In The World Where Divorce Is Legal

We’ve come a long way as a civilization — not just the United States, but the entire world. Many terrible atrocities committed in the past are long gone, slavery chief among them (if you don’t count the 40 million or so people who are legally enslaved through loopholes or underground criminal activity). Here at home, voting rights now extend to anyone who reaches age eighteen. Civil rights, over time, only become stronger. And then there are divorce rights. 

Once upon a time divorce was considered a life-long vow no matter what. That meant obtaining a divorce was illegal! Did you know that there is one country where divorcing a spouse is still illegal? You might not believe which country it is, either: the Philippines. Divorce is also impossible in the Vatican City and the British Crown Dependency of Sark (which you’ve probably never even heard of).

Part of the fear is that the Philippines, a popular travel location, will turn into a place where people come to “get married in the morning [and] … get divorced in the afternoon.”

While that has little chance of happening even if divorce legislation changes current laws, there is always an excuse for conservative members of government to make. That’s why so many countries hadn’t legalized divorce before the last few decades.

Malta legalized in 2011; Chile in 2004; Ireland in 1996; Andorra in 1995; Colombia and Paraguay in 1991; Argentina in 1987; and the list continues. Divorce has always been common in the United States.

Most legally obtained divorces require a court authority to sanction the act — which in most cases will only occur after the two spouses meet a strict set of requirements. They might have to decide how joint resources are split up, and they might have to turn to lawyers or mediators — or even a judge — to determine who gets custody of children or pays alimony and/or child support. There are lots of variables to discuss. 

The way many younger people approach marriage, and relationships in general, today, is much different than it used to be. Today you often hear terms like “open” to describe a relationship. “Polyamory” is another word that gets thrown around a lot. In most cases this means — even in the case of marriage — partners are allowed to have extramarital partners or relationships, and in some cases both spouses are involved in a relationship with a third party. One can only imagine how marriage and divorce will continue to change in the next few decades.

Are you from the Philippines? If you moved to the United States and would like a divorce, it might be time to talk to a divorce lawyer now!

What Should You Ask Your Lover Before Tying The Knot: How To Prevent Divorce

Preventing divorce might be as simple as asking the right questions prior to marriage — and how many of us really do that? We think we’re in love, and we’re usually in that young phase of life during which we think we already have all the answers. More questions would just complicate the chemistry inherent in the relationship! Well, not quite. Most psychologists recommend a courting or cohabitation period of five to ten years before a proposal. There’s a reason for that.

  1. Part of the reason is how much you know about your partner, and when. There are always going to be those people who court one another for two months, determine they’re the only people in the world for one another, and then jump into a long-term commitment far too soon — very few of these relationships work out for the best. Most result in messy divorces. That’s why you need to question your partner about financial goals. Ask what their dream is or where they see themselves in a decade, and then find out how they plan to achieve that dream.

  2. Go down a list of deal breakers and don’t be afraid to put it on the fridge. This can and will change as partners become more comfortable opening up to one another, and those deal breakers can easily make a partner question whether marriage is really an intelligent next step. Take your time before you accept that the list is complete.

  3. Do you want kids? It seems like a blatantly obvious question, but some people still fail to ask — they make a bad assumption instead. Loving children doesn’t mean a person will want them. While you’re at it, ask what will happen if they can’t have children biologically. Is adoption on the table?

  4. What does time to yourself mean to you? Some people need a solid daily portion set aside for freedom and independence, while others will need to spend every waking moment with their loved one. Although opposites can and will attract, this is not one of those traits that should be all that dissimilar from your own.

  5. How do you communicate during arguments? There are those who need a few hours of alone-time to calm down — and won’t accept anything else — and then there are those who feel the need to immediately mend fences — and won’t accept anything else. Sadly these two types of people rarely interact well during marriage, and this is a big one to avoid. Find out whether your partner would prefer writing issues down or discussing them openly.

Are Millennials Really Ditching Divorce?

It is a difficult story to avoid in today’s news cycles: millennials are destroying everything in the world from peanut butter jelly time to doorbells to healthy relationships. How does one find fact in a sea of fiction? The easiest thing to do is assume most everything is fiction, because most everything is. But you may have read a recent collection of studies that suggest millennials are actually having a positive impact on divorce statistics.

Are millennials really not ripping apart the institution of marriage as often as their parents did? The answer is complicated (but also “yes”).

According to these studies, the reduced probability of divorce among the millennial generation has resulted in a whopping 24 percent overall decline in divorce rates going back to 1981. One of the highest criticisms older generations have lodged against the younger surrounds the hookup culture, but these numbers seem to suggest that millennials, while quicker to jump into bed, are slower (or less likely) to get hitched.

For other generations, marriage was the start of a new relationship on which partners would begin to build a life. These days things have changed. Now marriage is the result of a mature relationship. Many of these bonds were already secured with affection, sexual intercourse, cohabitation, and even kids, which is part of the reason why younger couples are marrying at an older age than their parents did. They only take this final step when they feel absolutely safe that the bond is lasting.

Another piece of the puzzle lies in how many fewer millennials are getting married at all. According to a publication from the University of Baltimore, a quarter of this bracket of the population won’t bother. Nearly a quarter of the same age bracket does not affiliate with any religion. Although most millennials appear to believe in god, it seems that fewer hold religion in as high esteem as their parents. Maybe this is why so many millennials are abandoning marriage, an institution so steeped in religious importance.

Millennials also realize we live in a changing world with perhaps a less secure economic future. Divorce can be a costly affair both emotionally and financially and most millennials will do anything to avoid making a dent in their pocketbook. Who can fault them for being diligent with their money? Financial situations are a big cause of divorce, which is why it might be smart to wait until partners feel secure in their livelihood as well.

This is probably the biggest driver of prenuptial agreements, which millennials are coincidentally signing more often than their parents.

There’s another interesting possibility why millennials might marry (and divorce) less often. Rates of marriage among couples whose religious beliefs and cultural backgrounds differ are on the rise, as are the number of wedding ceremonies a single couple will hold. This is done to accommodate everyone’s beliefs.

In the end, millennials are divorcing less often because they believe in personal security above all else.

How Is Child Support Calculated?

Unfortunately, the Federal Government does not have one standardized way to calculate child support, so it is left up to each individual state, and each individual state has it’s own formula. Most states, including California and New York, use something that is called an income share model while other states like Texas used what is called a percentage income model. Other states use a combination of these two models, while others use a completely different method.

Income Share Model 

The child support payment is based on the income of both parents and the total number of children. The court uses an economic table that shows the expected cost of raising a child to determine a monetary amount. The non-custodial parent is responsible to pay 55.6% of that amount to the custodial parent. Here’s an example:

Parent 1 makes $2500 a month and is the custodial parent. Parent 2 makes $2000 a month and is the non-custodial parent. The net income of the family is $4500 a month. According to the economic table, the expected cost of raising a child per month is $1,125. Parent 2 has to pay 55.6% of the $1,125 to Parent 1 which is roughly $625.50 a month.

Percentage Income Model 

The child support payment is based on a specific percentage of the non-custodial parent’s gross or net income. The percentage of income can either be flat (where it doesn’t change based on the non-custodial parent’s income) or varied (where it does change based on the non-custodial parent’s income) depending on the state. Here’s an example:

Parent 2 is the non-custodial parent and makes $2000 a month. Parent 2 has to give 25% of this monthly income to Parent 1 for child support. Parent 2 pays Parent 1 $500 a month regardless of how much income Parent 1 makes.

To know exactly how much you will need to pay in child support, it is important to know which model your state uses. Once you know that, you should be able to estimate approximately how much you will have to pay each month.

 

How Is Divorce Different In The Middle East?

Divorce in the Middle East isn’t a topic we often discuss, even though it has a number of fundamental differences from marriage in the rest of the world. Many marriages in the Middle East are still arranged not for love, but for status and wealth. Then again, times are quickly changing, and divorce rates are on the rise even as they start to level out in many Western countries.

Women have never had it easy, and their struggles are perhaps even more arduous in the Middle Eastern countries where they have fewer rights or legal avenues to fight the injustices done to them.

Women in particular often can’t settle a divorce without their husband’s consent. That leads to obvious problems if a husband isn’t willing to cooperate in a loveless marriage or one in which domestic violence is present. Men, on the other hand, are often freely allowed to divorce their wives without cooperation or consent if the differences are said to be irreconcilable. Because men can use this leverage at any time, women are prone to greater anxiety than their husbands.

Women in the Middle East are more likely to struggle with poverty after a divorce and inherit less. This is better than it was in the far-past when women were lucky to inherit anything at all. Even though these laws favor men to an unfortunate extreme, the men in the Middle East still bear much of the financial burden of maintaining their homes.

These differences tend to make the social status differences between men and women much more pronounced. One of the reasons that the status quo has not changed more quickly is because Islamic law is generally based on the Qur’an, where these ideas are founded. Although many laws were borrowed from Europe over the past few centuries, divorce laws have stayed mostly the same.

Women have made civil rights gains in Turkey, Tunisia, and Somalia most notably because the governments of these countries and states are less dependent on the dominant religions throughout the rest of the Middle East. Other countries have done their best to follow suit, giving women the right to face their husbands in court to plead a case. Saudi Arabia is one of the countries in which divorce laws seem completely unchanged.

Why You Should Be Okay With Divorce

Marriages have been made throughout history for a number of reasons, the most romantic among them being love. Arranged marriages are made in order to strengthen the ties–both financial and otherwise–between two families in order to ensure a better future is made for each. We often hear that those are the most successful, but you know what? Who decided that, and what metric were they using to define success?

Arranged marriages also don’t apply to most people who live in developed nations. Why continue to discuss them as if they’ll show us the way to happiness?

Most of us fall into the first category. We marry a significant other not for financial gain or wellbeing, but because we are in love. We want to build something of a different nature: a family. But it doesn’t always work out the way we want, the way we dream, or the way we hope. That’s because everyone is different, and everyone changes over time.

That’s why you should be okay with divorce. The healthiest course is to both accept and adapt to change. To move on. To look forward to the future.

It’s no secret that marriages rarely work. There is no “ideal” marriage. Half of all marriages end in divorce, and even among those that “work” the rate of cheating on a partner remains sickeningly high. So here’s the question: why are we so obsessed with making it work if we can just go our separate ways and find happiness somewhere else?

Well, part of it is history. Americans in general have a puritan background, and the beliefs and values that were passed down to us for hundreds of years still endure, even if the practices on which those values were placed have changed.

People grow apart. They discover they have different dreams. They want different things. They view the world in a way far different than they once did. They grow tired of the same stale conversations at the end of the day, and they wish it were different.

What’s the harm in any of that?

There’s no logic to staying together with someone if the relationship has turned into a toxic mess. It’s bad for you both, and it’s bad for any children involved. You can’t hide marital problems. Give therapy a try if you both agree that bridging your differences is the best course of action, but if it doesn’t work, don’t fight the future. Get a divorce, and move on.

How To Cope With Your Nightmare Divorce

Divorce is never easy, but sometimes it can be a terrible nightmare. An ex-partner can strive to make your life miserable through unfair legal actions or debating the value and ownership of everything once in your possession. There are ways to cope with divorce both physically, emotionally, and legally. You should know what to do, how to act, and how to best move on. These are the best coping mechanisms you can hope to find.

  1. First and foremost, get a therapist. Do this before you file for divorce, because therapy could help you figure out some things about both yourself and your partner. Discovery might reassure you that divorce is the best option or it might change your mind. Once you file for divorce, it’s hard to turn around and go back–that’s not how human beings are wired. Therapy will also help you check your emotions at the door during important legal situations in which both partners are present, and provide an outlet for them when need be.
  2. Therapy is the first order of business, but make proper legal counsel your second. Your partner will have counsel as well, and you don’t want to be left behind when it comes to taking a critical next step that requires technical information you don’t have. A lawyer (and maybe a financial advisor too) will help you set appropriate goals for your current situation.
  3. Make sure your friends and family know what you’re going through. You don’t want to be alone with yourself right now. Make sure to keep those closest to you as near as you can. Get out. Go do things. It’s not about keeping your mind occupied, it’s about filling your brain with chemicals that induce happiness! Stay away from alcohol and other drugs. Limit your caffeine intake in the morning. These only serve to induce depression.
  4. Exercise. Do it as much as you can, but recognize that there is such a thing as too much exercise if you’re already overloaded. You’ll know what amount of exercise is right for you. When you leave the house, try to find an unpopulated, natural preserve to explore. Run, walk, whatever. But remember that environments can change how our brain reacts to different stimuli. Fresh air is important.
  5. Listen to music. Not the music associated with how you feel now, but music that feels energetic and upbeat and happy. You don’t want to sink lower because you’re listening to the wrong thing. What you’re listening to can affect your overall outlook. Be careful!

Questions To Ask Before Getting A Divorce

In many cases, getting a divorce is the last resort. But is it really?

Sure, there are some of us who believe we split up years after we should have, because we wanted to believe we gave the marriage every chance to be successful. Whether you do it for the children or just for yourself (you don’t want to absorb a failed marriage that your parents went through, and you were determined not to be them, right?), you claim that you did everything but you reached a crossroads to determine the path of most happiness for you and your family.

While you think divorce may be your only option left at securing a path to happiness, therapists and marriage counselors would want to ensure that you have asked some specific questions and you have a solid answer to them. But these are questions that must be asked yet are not asked all that often because they’re not thought of by those in the relationship.

Here is a sampling of the questions you should be asking yourself before you decide to hire a divorce attorney.

  • Have you made your concerns clearly known? Do you understand your roles in the relationship?

These types of questions are about one of the most important aspects to a successful relationship: Communication. These are the kinds of issues about which you can’t dance around or be vague. If you are a couple that has consistent misunderstandings or you have problems because one or the other doesn’t feel he or she is hearing or understood, that lack of compatibility hurts. Talk about what you’ve expected and what has or has not met those expectations. Be clear and direct so there are no misunderstandings or ulterior motives to what you both say.

  • If you could do one thing to save the relationship, what would you do? And would it be worth it?

These questions are related in this way – measuring the pros and cons of your relationship, not just thinking that you would be happier away from your spouse. Take a good hard look. The first question is something both spouses should do – write (or type) things that you and your spouse should or could do to make the relationship work better. The second one is to look hard at what you have in the relationship currently, and measure it against what you think you need or would get somewhere else. Is what you’d be leaving actually better in the long run than what you’re missing? Think the kids, companionship, sharing of chores/roles, etc.

There are 11 provocative questions available online that you can ask yourself before getting a divorce. And its’ recommended that you answer each one with something other than “I don’t know.” Those answers will help you determine if divorce is indeed the best way forward. If you decide to file for a divorce, please contact one of our experienced divorce attorneys.

Will My Inheritance Be Divided In My Divorce?

The decision of getting a divorced can be emotionally and financially draining. Going from a two-income to a solo income household might be overwhelming so making sure every asset that you have remains in your hand is important. In general, inheritances are not considered marital property and therefore are not going to be divided during the divorce process. It is considered the property of the person to whom the inheritance was bestowed.

However, if the inheritance was deposited into a joint bank account and was used for joint marriage expenses, the inheritance immunity is no longer available as the inheritance has been comingled. Marriage expenses include bills, mortgage payments, home repairs and car payments for joint vehicles.

It doesn’t matter when the inheritance is bestowed (for example, a great aunt left a person money in her will but failed to mention their spouse in the will or before you entered into the marriage), the property is considered that person’s sole property until comingling has occurred.

Therefore, the best way to keep your inheritance save from division during the process of divorce is to make sure that is completely separate from your joint accounts and used solely for yourself and not for the benefit of the marriage. Or if you are coming into a marriage with an inheritance, getting a prenuptial agreement that clearly defines that the inheritance is not divisible.

While not impossible to keep your inheritance safe after comingling, it is very difficult to prove that the funds were never intended to be shared with your soon to be ex-spouse. If you are worried that your inheritance is going to be divided then it’s best that you contact one of our division of property lawyers for a free consultation regarding your case.